I Want A World Where...
all of us feel worthy of being loved.
Where all people get to spend their life on this planet experiencing the chemistry and joy of an incredible relationship.
And I believe
You deserve to feel that your uniqueness within a relationship is purposeful.
Being able to really open up, and say what you feel, and let the person you love hear the truth is your birth right.
That equally… being authentically you shouldn’t lead to you not truly listening and actively ‘hearing’ your partner.
And I believe that most of us were not born as great communicators, it is a valuable skill that has to be consciously learnt and practiced.
A skill that has been hurt by the fast-paced social media tech world that we live in today.
Really, truly, communicating and listening to someone is hard.
The majority of the problems couples face… from money, to intimacy, to cheating, to family resentments… stems from poor communication.
Our culture preaches for us to ‘communicate’ without explaining what that actually looks like… it doesn’t give a clear step by step process of ‘the how to’ effectively communicate.
And it especially doesn’t teach us how to do that within the regular life obligations like a job that needs us to bring our A-game, juggling family needs, endless adulting responsibilities…
And it especially doesn’t teach us how to show up and take the wheel in our relationship during our weakest, scariest moments that life can throw at us.
This is why I do the work that I do.
Quick Facts About Me
01 | Growing Up
I’m a Londoner, born and raised, but I’ve been living in the USA for the past 25 years.
02 | Business Background
Renowned relationship coach & online course instructor – Successfully coached thousands of individuals worldwide over the past 30 years.
Family & divorce lawyer/mediator with 40 years of experience – Handled over 2,000 cases and seen firsthand what leads to relationship breakdowns.
Media commentator for relationship challenges and navigating high-conflict dynamics, as well as fatherhood issues and news.
03 | Marriage & Children
30+ years of marriage to my incredible wife, raising 7 amazing kids (3 girls, 4 boys).
All our children were born at home, including one unassisted birth—one of my proudest moments!
04 | Hardship Made Me Stronger
During my wife’s pregnancy with our 5th child, the 2008 global recession hit—we lost $3.2 million, nearly everything.
The silver lining? We embraced a holistic lifestyle, learning to cook from scratch, make our own cleaning products, and become deeply vigilant about our health because we had no health insurance.
05 | Overcoming Health Challenges
At 40 years old, I was diagnosed with incurable osteoarthritis. Doctors told me there was nothing I could do—but I refused to accept that. Through alternative remedies, diet changes, and mindfulness, I overcame the pain. Today, I’m living pain-free.
06 | Working + Raising Babies
I worked alongside my wife through every pregnancy, raising 7 children while running my law practice, property businesses, and even a restaurant. It wasn’t easy—but family comes first.
07 | Favorite Quote
"A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other." – Unknown
My Story: From Divorce Attorney to Marriage Coach
I’ve seen it all—broken trust, emotional disconnection, and relationships on the brink of collapse. As a divorce attorney, I witnessed firsthand the destructive patterns that destroy marriages.
📌But I also discovered something profound:
Marriage crises don’t happen overnight.
Couples don’t need traditional therapy—they need a roadmap to rebuild.
Transformation is possible with the right strategies.
When my wife and I faced our own challenges—losing $3M while raising five children and expecting our sixth—we didn’t crumble. We rebuilt. Together.
That’s when I realized my true calling: helping couples rebuild their relationships before it’s too late.
Living What I Teach
I don’t just talk the talk—I live it every day.
I’ve faced financial collapse, health challenges, and the pressures of raising a large family—while keeping my marriage strong.
I’ve helped thousands of couples rebuild trust, reignite intimacy, and transform their relationships.
I provide practical, no-BS strategies that work.
As a divorce attorney and mediator, I’ve seen firsthand the destructive patterns that lead to the breakdown of relationships. This experience shaped my coaching philosophy: helping couples before it’s too late.
A Little Background
📌 Featured in: Washington Post, Law Society Gazette, BBC—recognized for my work in family law & marriage coaching.
📌 Nicknamed "The Marriage Whisperer" for my ability to help couples heal—even in the middle of divorce proceedings (to the frustration of opposing lawyers!)
📌 Worked with high-profile celebrities, CEOs, and professionals—as well as those receiving legal aid. No matter your background, marriage struggles have common patterns and solutions.
The Hard Truth?
Most people wait too long to fix their marriage.
The good news? You don’t have to.
No matter where you are in your life right now, you have the power to transform your relationship.
My Journey
I started my law practice after years in the field, eventually pleading cases before the Supreme Court.
When I met my wife, everything changed. Within four years of marriage, we had three children while managing my law firm together.
Then came the financial crash of 2008, where we lost $3.2 million. Instead of falling apart, we grew stronger.
This taught me valuable lessons and incredible insights.
I’ve learned that high-achieving professionals often push through emotional pain without addressing it. But just like a high-performance athlete who never rests, burnout is inevitable.
If that burnout is left unchecked, it often leads to resentment and losing vibrancy for both their life and their marriage.
I’ve also learned that a truly connected, intimate and deep relationship comes from letting go of society’s expectations for how your marriage and your life should look, and instead adopt your own beliefs for what works for you as a couple.
When we lean into our brave, authentic and sometimes unconventional choices (like me working and living side by side with my wife every day for the last nearly 30 years!) we find that magic formula that helps take us through every crossroad, block and turning point squarely together… and enables struggles to turn into united growth.
This creates a sacred safe space that fuels the will and momentum for each partner to show up every day, check their ego at the door, and put intentional effort into their relationship and personal growth.
What I’ve observed in my work over the last several decades is that it can be one of the most difficult challenges for a couple to not just openly acknowledge that something is ‘off‘ between them… but to also acknowledge that something needs to change.
It all most ‘feels’ more comfortable to stay stuck and unhappy than give up their ‘identity’ or ‘way of being’ as a couple as they are right now.
Transformation is not always easy, let alone when there are two people involved, and especially if one of them seems to have already ‘checked out’ of the relationship.
But there is another way, and on the face it of it this other way may not look sexy, exciting, romantic.
Creating an enduring, passionate love affair is not just about the love itself- it’s about learning the systems and skills to cultivate it and keep it 🌷blooming.
My core methodology at Relationships Rebuilt, is focusing on you as a whole being operating within the ecosystem of your relationship, your life, and the world around you.
The job that you do, the children you may have, the time stressors that make up your day, the daily responsibilities you have, the unhelpful baggage you’ve experienced or picked up along the way… these all impact your relationship.
Your relationship can find itself turning into an estranged and toxic cycle.
Stuck in an unhealthy relationship loop of trust-erosion patterns and relationship conflict- you have little to no trust and faith in the relationship.
But here’s the truth.
You do have the power to fix your marriage.
You just need the routine and the skills to do it.
It needs to be simple not complicated.
(Notice I said “simple,” not “easy”!)
This is especially true when your partner has a more challenging personality type like a narcissist, extremely avoidant, overly critical or highly passive.
Using a mix of…
scientifically-backed coaching tools, cutting-edge science, neuroscience, leading-edge psychology- especially around behavioral change and creating healthy automated healthy communication and habit loops (yep- I know it doesn’t sound sexy but it works like magic!)
… I help you improve communication, rebuild trust, navigate conflict, and reignite intimacy.
TRANSPARENTLY.
But… to be transparent, I will also give you feedback where you’re giving it your all but it’s time to consider letting go. In those cases, I will help you end your relationship amicably- especially necessary when you’re co-parenting.
I’ll help you shift the energy from ‘brokenness’ and heartbreak to kindness when ending a relationship, with or without the help of your partner; and identify, tackle, heal, and release negative baggage and patterns from it so that you can start with a clean slate for your next relationship.
If you’re a part of my Relationship Rebuilt Coaching Program it comes with life membership so you’ll get my continued support, feedback and accountability – no room to hide and plenty of space to grow!
Creating a rock solid relationship foundation is key to happiness and success which is why I also created the Pre-Marital Relationship Blueprint to help get this work done before the big day, or for people about to co-habit.
Wherever you are in your relationship journey I’ll create a space for you to unpack and heal your relationship challenges.
I do this with permission and it is my honor.
Your relationship issues are safe with me.
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No matter how you feel, wherever you are in your life right now, you have the power to change your reality.
Thanks for taking the time to visit my site, I genuinely appreciate it … and you.
I’m looking forward to catching up with you on the inside.
